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19 May 2012
My mum always abuses me mentally,emotionally etc by her constant nagging,fault finding and criticism,and many a times,hurting personal remarks.when confronted,she once said that by doing this,she is giving me the practice of being able to tolerate my future mum inlaw’s abuses,as she too will do the same.
mind u,my mum is a highly educated lady,working in govt. sector.
when i got married,i really got a very very abusive mum-in-law and husband who beat me for silly reasons,so much so,that i lost my appetite and weight.
now i am divorced,and my mum’s attitude continues.
as a result it’s affecting my mental health.the results-memory loss,lack of self esteem,low confidence,always accepting unfairness in my life,trying too hard to please others,and so on.rather my parents have been teaching me since childhood,that i should try to please even those who bully me,because this will make me well adjusted in sasural.infact they used to tell me the same thing in my childhood also,that u try very hard to please your fellow classmate who abuses u,because this will change her..and i kept following their advise blindly,but in the end made a fool of myself,because the bully only abused me further by taking advantage of my weakness.
so my personality became one of a doormat,who was always ridiculed for her submissiveness.
now what shud i do?
please give me easy tips with examples,on how to gain assertiveness back in life,and how to deal assertively with bullies.
no one loves me in my family.i am all alone.